This workshop is for you if:
- You are a recovering good-girl who ends up with bendy boundaries in your desire to please everyone
- You are playing small and not being as impactful as you could be, because somehow it feels safer that way
- You tend to overgive and get underappreciated
- You empathize deeply and profoundly with all the women who have (and still are) suffering just because they are women
- You are ready to be even more in your power and tired of advice that tells you to just say no more (if it was that simple setting boundaries wouldn't be an issue)
Let's clarify one thing: There is nothing weak about having bendy boundaries. It's actually a very powerful survival strategy. But it doesn't serve you to play big.
So if you're ready to feel more joy, to have people respect you so much they don't even ask for the things you would need to say no to, to be confidently in your power and to have a bigger impact, come join this workshop.
BACKGROUND TO THE WORKSHOP:
A couple of years I saw the title “Boundary Setting” in a podcast episode in a popular podcast I followed at the time.
“Nope. Not listening to that,” I thought. “I am pretty sure listening to this workshop will make me feel bad about myself.” (Obviously no one can make me feel bad about myself… but previous experience of boundary-setting being taught to women had me make the assumption that this episode would be triggering and not in a good way).
So what was it that had me disregard the episode?
There are 3 reasons why I usually don’t like when people talk boundary setting for women:
✳️ The teaching usually includes and element of “just say no more”. Which in many ways is insulting. As if we can’t utter the word ‘no’ and as if we are just weak pushovers. There are more layers and this point is too simplistic and often dressed in patronising or even insulting energy.
✳️ Boundary teaching for women often comes with the sentiment of “you just have to become more tough, less caring. Cut off your attention to others and then you can look after you. I agree to the piece about looking after self first but the less caring/cut off energy doesn’t work. With this kind of boundary teaching you are also switching off the light of generous kindness and empathy. It invites us to contract rather than expand.
✳️ It’s disregarding that there is a whole identity and a powerful survival strategy underneath the bendy boundaries. Bendy boundaries are bendy for good reason. It’s not something you just dismiss by learning a simple phrase or too. Changing boundary setting not only changes our relationship with everyone, it also changes how we belong. If your identity of belonging is based on you being available and helpful to others, then being told, just be less helpful, is entirely unhelpful.
So to recap:
If you have bendy boundaries you are not weak. You have fierce life force flowing through your veins that have created (and perhaps inherited) a strategy in life that has secured your belonging, given you a strong identity and perhaps positive affirmation. It’s just that it also comes with a massive shadow side that can lead to burn-out, depression, playing small, not leading to your full potential, not knowing what you actually want and ultimately not living your most expansive life. But there is nothing weak about it.
Can't make it live on the 26th? You will have access to the replay and this workshop is turning into a mini online course afterwards which you will have lifetime access to.
This workshop will definitely be incomplete because there is so much share on the topic of boundaries and so much depth, but it might just be life changing.
There will be:
- a pre-workshop audio training
- a live workshop 26th Oct 7.30pm London / 8.30pm Paris / 2.30pm New York (replay will be added here in Thinkific)
- post-workshop audio to embed everything
- lifetime access to all the material
- opportunity to upgrade to 1:1 support
A conversation to have with yourself - boundaries part 1
Boundaries so strong you don't have to speak out
The remedy for: When your boundaries have been crossed.
Preparing to go back to people/situations where your boundaries felt shaken/broken
How to back yourself and fill up to solid